Friday, October 28, 2011

Is the Sacrifice Worth It?

Every household makes sacrifices.  I don't know anyone who isn't sacrificing some of the extras that we love, like a dinner out or a movie to keep the home running.  But most of us continue to do what we can for our children so they are not affected by our financial strains like continuing to keep them in extra-curricular activities.  Ours is karate.  My oldest daughter who just turned 8 has fallen in love with karate.  She has attended two to three days a week for almost 3 months now and is ready to test for her yellow belt.  She is over the moon! She is practicing her form and all the information she needs to know constantly, at home, at school, at friends houses, even in the store.  Her instructors say she is a natural. It has given her focus and an inner strength.

The list was finally published. The list with all the names of the students qualified to test and the date of the test.  My daughters name was on it! She is eligible to test!!!   But the excitement only lasted for seconds when the date was announced.  You guessed it, the weekend we are gone.  The weekend we have already booked our plane tickets.  The first time we get to see daddy in 7 weeks. Yup, that weekend.  The instructor is just as devastated as we are.  He knows how hard she has worked.

There is a chance accommodations can be made, but if they can't, then we have to live with it, suck it up, a sacrifice has to be made. We are still trying to deal with the sacrifice of daddy missing the events, this will be our first Halloween apart, but us not attending the event at all has never been an option before.  My husband and I work very hard to make sure the girls are not resentful of our situation.  For the first 5 years I drove the girls and the dogs back and forth five times a year.  I have put 100,000 miles on my car so we can spend time together as a family.  But this will be the biggest challenge yet: getting an eight year old to understand the sacrifice is worth it. There will be other tests, other events, other chances to practice your sport.  Our time together as a family is so much more important baby, I promise.

1 comment:

  1. Living apart is hard. I work away from home and am gone for 6-12 weeks at a time. Over the past few years I have missed high school graduations, birthdays, our 20 year wedding anniversary and this year the second Christmas in a row. I dont know that anyone who does not live what we live will ever understand. I get it and will be following your blog! Share away!

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